I’m not one to tell you how to talk, or to tell someone how to live, but I am one to call you out on your bull. That includes the ignorant things you say.
You’ve probably heard it plenty of times by now, “Don’t say ‘gay’ in a derogatory way, it’s wrong to use.”
Many people get it, it’s wrong to use it when you’re using the word to describe something bad, but not many people understand why it’s such an insult. That is an insult not only to gay people, but to women. Did I lose you? Alright, let me explain.
You see, the main reason why people (and by people, I mean mostly straight males) started using the word, it’s because they were describing an action that was feminine.
Which I’m not going to lie, most gay men hold that quality. But when you think about it, what’s so wrong with a man being feminine?
Is there something wrong with being feminine in the first place? Do you think men can’t be feminine because they need to be strong? Do you think only men can be strong and someone who is feminine, like most women, can’t be strong?
See, that’s the messed up part. When using “gay” in a derogatory way, you’re stepping on both a sexual orientation and a gender as a whole group.
And it’s funny because the gender you’re stepping on has probably been the strongest person in your life.
For those of you that have had a chance to have a mom, grandma, older sister, or what have you, just realize how much effort and strength they had to put in just to get you where you are today. From changing your diapers to buying you new clothes to impress, most likely, a girl who is feminine that you are so sprung over.
Oh, and if you’re a girl saying it, you’re basically putting yourself down. In the words of Beyonce, “Baby girl you can’t survive like this.”
Girls who step on their own gender and a lifestyle just makes it okay for guys to do it. And don’t lie girls, some of your best friends are gay. Back us up, don’t keep us down.
Again, I’m not one to force you to do anything you don’t want to do. But the next time you decide to use “gay” in a derogatory way, know how many close people you are offending intentionally now because you’ve read this article.
You’re not ignorant now. You would just be a punk …don’t be a punk. Just expand your vocabulary. You can do it.